Growing Up Social…A Book Review



Technology is all around us!  It is a part of our daily lives from Smartphones, laptops to self-check out line at your local grocery store; it is changing how we live. But it is also changing how we interact with one another and not for the better. When was the last time you picked up the phone and called a friend? Easier to text right? Walk into any restaurant and glance around at tables; how many families are actually talking to one another? Kids and parents alike are nose deep in their iPad or iPhone; families have abandoned each other and have fallen in love with their handheld devices.


Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World talks about the dangers of screen time while providing you with strategies of how to limit screen time.  In the first few chapters, authors Arlene Pellicane and Gary Chapman share how to much screen time may be unhealthy, and provide suggestions on how parents can set practical limits. They go into great detail citing a number of research studies show a correlation physical and mental health problems in children with unhealthy amounts of screen time.


I found the next several chapters fascinating; the authors explain the importance of the five positive character traits kids need in order to form strong and healthy relationships. These ‘A-Plus skills are; Affection, Appreciation, Anger management, Apology, and Attention.

The Skill of Affection – How do you show real love to another person?

The Skill of Appreciation – How do you cultivate a grateful heart?

The Skill of Attention – How do you focus and be a good listener?

The Skill of Anger Management – How do you express anger in a productive way?

The Skill of Apology – How do you mend a relationship after you make a mistake?

Each skill has an entire chapter dedicated to it.  The authors explain how too much screen time works against the development of each of these skills, and they give suggestions to parents on how cultivate these skills into your kids.

The next several chapters address the today’s concerns with screen time: Shyness, The Brain.Security etc. Each topic is looked at obectively; again providing simple steps to change your families need for the screen.

  • Equip your child to be relationally rich in a digital world
  • Replace mindless screen time with meaningful family time
  • Establish simple boundaries that make a huge difference
  • Discover what’s working for families that have become screen savvy
  • Learn healthy ways to occupy your child while you get things done

I highly recommend this book( not only parents) but to anyone who wants to deepen their connections with others beyond the screen. It’s time for us to teach our children the importance of deep, healthy relationships. So,let’s put our devices down and start talking!

To find our more about Growing Up Social click here

About the Authors:

Dr. Gary Chapman



He is the author of numerous other books published by Moody Publishers/Northfield Publishing, including Anger, The Family You’ve Always Wanted, The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted, Desperate Marriages, God Speaks Your Love Language, How to Really Love Your Adult Child, and Hope for the Separated. With Dr. Jennifer Thomas, he co-authored The Five Languages of Apology.

Dr. Chapman speaks to thousands of couples nationwide through his weekend marriage conferences. He hosts a nationally syndicated radio program, A Love Language Minute, and a Saturday morning program, Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, both airing on more than 400 stations. Dr. Chapman and his wife have two grown children and currently live in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, where he serves as senior associate pastor at Calvary Baptist Church.

Dr. Chapman holds BA and MA degrees in anthropology from Wheaton College and Wake Forest University, respectively, MRE and PhD degrees from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, and has completed postgraduate work at the University of North Carolina and Duke University.



Arlene Pellicane



Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife and 31 Days to a Happy Husband. She has been featured on The Today Show, The 700 Club, and Family Life Today and formerly served as the associate producer for Turning Point with Dr. David Jeremiah. Arlene lives in Southern California with her husband, James, and their three children. Find out more

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